Why Are We Drawn To Fairytales?

Why Are We Drawn To Fairytales?

canstockphoto17614356 Admit it, you’ve got at least one, if not a dozen favorite fairytales. Everyone knows Cinderella, Snow White, Little Red Riding Hood, Robin Hood, Peter Pan, etc. to just name a few. Then there’s all the new ones which come out to become favorites of children today like The Little Mermaid and Frozen just to name a couple. I’ll admit, I’m not up on the new ones because my kids are grown but with a grandchild on the way, I have no doubt I’ll learn all about Ariel and whatever happens in Frozen!

And if you think fairytales are just for kids, think again. Look at ABC’s “Once Upon a Time. I was completely hooked on season one. I admit, life got crazy and I haven’t seen all of season two. Or maybe I just didn’t like the appearance of Regina’s evil mother…  And then there’s the movie “Maleficent that recently came out. It tells the Sleeping Beauty tale from the darker villain view point.

And of course, there’s taking the theme of favorite fairytales and giving them a fresh look. For instance, Pretty Woman is a Cinderella story and so is the The Princess Diaries. All these redo’s of fairytales are for us adults and we loved them.

So what is the appeal?

canstockphoto19825411 Fairytales are based on archtypes—recognizable character traits. We all know someone who is a Peacemaker, Caregiver, Warrior, even a Trickster personality (there are more archtypes). And the situations those ficticious characters  find themselves in also relate to our modern lives. Okay, not all of us are waiting for Prince Charming to ride up on his magnificent white horse and take us away to a castle, but we are dealing with life issues.

How do we handle “life”? Do we sing and dance like Cinderella, bury our nose in a book like Belle or become bitter like Maleficent. Those fairytales are about people working out values and their views on their world.  They are survivors because they are strong, and have fighting spirits, even upon their darkest moments.

canstockphoto14505177 We all know that Cinderella could have become a very depressed young woman and even
bitter. Today, maybe she’d be a child bullied? But she choose to see the good in her life, draw joy from where she could—animals, her world around her and maybe even an acceptance that she had a very sucky life. Yet it didn’t destroy in innate goodness or spirit. Her kindness and her dreams got her out of her awful family situation. Well, okay, she had a fairy godmother to spur things along but can’t we use our dreams or desires for change as goals to achieve that change? It was our lovely character’s inner strength that saved her and in the end, rewarded her.

Same with Snow White. Acceptance and a cheerful dispostion and a strong desire to survive and make a better life. If we study fairytales, we’ll see that they are about people, life, relationships and overcoming the odds.

Now all that is easier said than done but I believe that if we avoid adopting the “poor me” attitude, and look for opportunities (dream, plan, set goals), then we can overcome our life situations and challenges.

canstockphoto17502019 All this boils down to the fact that I think subconsciously, we turn to fairytales for hope and a way to escape, a way to learn how to cope and overcome adversity and deal with our demons and just renew our faith in ourselves and the people in our world. Maybe even in the world itself.

And of course, that Happily-Ever-After and the Dreams Do Come True that gives us hope for our own lives. Do I sound like Pollyanna? Yeah, I do have an optimistic outlook on life.

I was writing erotica with BDSM elements and the words, Once Upon a Time came to me. I wrote it down and then changed one word and had my new series: Once Upon A Dom. From there I had the idea of creating a setting, a castle of sorts using a mansion with turrets which became Pleasure Manor. Then it was a simple matter of filling it with my favorite fairytale characters and creating my Fairytale Event.

I’m having a blast with revisiting the fairytales of my childhood and spicing them up, giving my characters each their own happy endings.

So what is your favorite fairytale and why? What theme or lesson draws you to that story?

Here are some great quotes on Fairytales.

“Fear isn’t so difficult to understand. After all, weren’t we all frightened as children? Nothing has changed since Little Red Riding Hood faced the big bad wolf. What frightens us today is exactly the same sort of thing that frightened us yesterday. It’s just a different wolf. This fright complex is rooted in every individual.”
― Alfred Hitchcockcanstockphoto6361883

“Fairy Tales are more than true; not because they tell us that dragons exist but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten.” English writer G.K. Chesterton

“Fear isn’t so difficult to understand. After all, weren’t we all frightened as children?  Nothing has changed since Little Red Riding Hood faced the big bad wolf. What frightens us today is exactly the same sort of thing that frightened us yesterday. It’s just a different wolf.” Alfred Hitchcock

“There is the great lesson of ‘Beauty and the Beast,’ that a thing must be loved before it is lovable.”
― G.K. Chesterton

Fairy tales do not tell children the dragons exist. Children already know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children the dragons can be killed.”
― G.K. Chesterton

Every fairy tale had a bloody lining. Every one had teeth and claws.”
― Alice HoffmanThe Ice Queen

Every fairy tale had a bloody lining. Every one had teeth and claws.”
― Alice HoffmanThe Ice Queen

“If I’m honest I have to tell you I still read fairy-tales and I like them best of all.”
― Audrey Hepburn

Here is a link to find more quotes https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/fairy-tales

Here are a couple of good blog posts on the subject



Cinderella & Prince Dom (Once Upon A Dom Series Book 1) Wild Rose Press

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Red & Her Big Bad Dom (Once Upon A Dom Series Book 2)   Wild Rose Press

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7 thoughts on “Why Are We Drawn To Fairytales?

  1. Great post, Sydney! Fairy tales speak to everyone. Seems to bad that so many people think Walt Disney has a monopoly on them, as he changed all the endings to be more family-friendly. Sometimes the original Grimm brother stories are better!

  2. When I was a child it was always Cinderella. I believed in my Prince Charming. But as I grew older it was more Belle. I’m a reader and independent like her and didn’t need a man for my own happiness.


  3. Fairytale allow 7s to believe that anything is possible if you wish it hard enough to be true. Remember the scene in Peter Pan, where you were begged by the on screen voice to help Tinkerbell? That was just another way to reinforce the Fairytale myth.

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